25%. 1/4. 0.25. A quarter.
On the 12th of October I turned 25, meaning I am now over a quarter of the way into my life (over as not many people make it to 100 these days). At 18 I panicked, at 21 I panicked and at 25 I am panicking! So what better way to make things make sense to myself than to write it all out in a blog post?! I try not to do too many of these unplanned just typing away style of things because I can end up very incoherent and waffly, but we'll see how it goes.
I'm not a big one for celebrating birthdays, it's just another day and a number to me, but I always had '25' pegged as a special age in my head. I had plans on how I'd hope my life would be going and points I wanted to reach. I look at others my age or even those younger and get frustrated at how I wish I could be more like them. Then I remember to not compare myself. This is my life and no one elses. There are no laws or rules to say you must complete a certain task by a certain stage and so that being said I want to list said things I'd hoped to achieve and counter them with some equally as awesome things I have actually achieved.
By 25 I wanted to:
Own a house - This point is a big deal to me and perhaps the main thing that gets to me that I haven't been able to do yet. As much as I love the house we have ended up in, renting in general just feels like throwing money away. Over the past 4 years of us renting I have calculated that we have paid £21,000+ to landlords. That number makes me feel sick. That could be a fifth of a house paid off by now but because deposits are so steep and there are no ways for us to save one while paying for a rented house, the cycle is ever going. I hope to find some way by next year to earn extra money, maybe a 2nd job worked around our life and all of that will be put away so by the time I'm 35 I can say I have bought a house.
See more of the world - There are so many fascinating places on my 'to visit' list, many of which I will never make it to. My fear of flying has only grown worse and now I refuse to fly ever again so by 25 or not it makes no difference. However, I could never have imagined the past 5 years would unfold as they did meaning very little spare money for a bar of chocolate let alone a trip to Chichen Itza!
Do more for charity - Although I have done more than others it still isn't the amount I'd hoped. A big event fell through this year and I was very disappointed in that but never got around to organizing anything in it's place. Something people don't seem to realize is that many events I have organized or taken part in in the past don't just take time and effort but money too. I swear if I had the money some of these celebs do I would still live a basic life and use a lot of it for charity purposes.
Be in better health - You'd think at 25 health wouldn't be an issue! I was doing so well sorting out my diet pre-Disneyland 2014 but have struggled to scale the wall of food demons over the past year. What I eat isn't my only issue of course as my breathing is a major factor along with my joints but I'd of liked to have been in peak fitness at this age, not feeling as if I'm falling apart haha.
Have more savings - Again. Money! The root of all evil and something that I wish I could go back and tell 18 year old me about. If I'd saved the wages I got back then instead of squandering them on unworthy people I'd probably have had a deposit for a house...
By 25 I have:
Started a family - NO! This isn't a pregnancy announcement hahaha. But I am extremely happy and lucky to have my little family in the form of a bearded xbox addict and best dog ever. I've known for a few years now that children weren't on the cards for me and of course have always pictured my life with a dog in it. He is another reason other aspects of life haven't turned out exactly to plan as for example if we didn't have him I'd be working full time and a house deposit would most likely have been achievable by now - I wouldn't change it for the world though.
Done charity work - I know I'm contradicting the above point but I am proud of the fundraising etc I have been able to do. This year I completed my 5th consecutive Race for Life and over the past 4 years I have skydived for Monkey World, organized a dog walk for Guide Dogs for the Blind, sponsored dogs from Dogs trust, put together hampers for animal shelters, sent out shoe boxes of goodies for Operation Christmas child and sponsored friends/donated where I could.
Been an adult for 4 years - By adult I mean have lived alone, paid bills, worked out how to do all of those adult things that they should teach you in school but don't :P I've always been pretty money savvy and mature but proving to myself and others that I can sort out all the crazy stuff I have had to deal with over the past few years is a nice adulty feeling.
Found myself - How cliche does that sound?! At 25, I'm glad to say that I know who I am and am happy with myself. I have not drank alcohol for 4 years and I am proud to say that. My heart is split into 4 sections - Disney, Harry Potter, the natural world and my family. Bird watching and nature hunts are one of my favorite pastimes even if people think it's an 'old person' hobby. I dress for comfort and don't spend much money on clothes or make up. I'm a loner and prefer the company of animals. I'm me and if anyone doesn't like that I don't care any more.
Done my best.
This post has gotten so much longer than I ever expected...but through it I think I have made myself realize that I have done exactly that, my best. People my age or younger that own their house and get to travel do so because they work hard. That doesn't mean that I don't work hard too but just that all our lives are different and we all have different goals & priorities.
I hope that you got something out of this post and if you did read it all (truthfully! Because man that is a heck load of waffle to get through..) tell me in the comments where you aspire to be in the next 5 years.
Thank you very much for reading!! <3