Monday, 2 November 2015

Thoughts On Turning a Quarter of a Century Old

25%.   1/4.   0.25.   A quarter.

On the 12th of October I turned 25, meaning I am now over a quarter of the way into my life (over as not many people make it to 100 these days). At 18 I panicked, at 21 I panicked and at 25 I am panicking! So what better way to make things make sense to myself than to write it all out in a blog post?! I try not to do too many of these unplanned just typing away style of things because I can end up very incoherent and waffly, but we'll see how it goes.

I'm not a big one for celebrating birthdays, it's just another day and a number to me, but I always had '25' pegged as a special age in my head. I had plans on how I'd hope my life would be going and points I wanted to reach. I look at others my age or even those younger and get frustrated at how I wish I could be more like them. Then I remember to not compare myself. This is my life and no one elses. There are no laws or rules to say you must complete a certain task by a certain stage and so that being said I want to list said things I'd hoped to achieve and counter them with some equally as awesome things I have actually achieved.


By 25 I wanted to:


Own a house - This point is a big deal to me and perhaps the main thing that gets to me that I haven't been able to do yet. As much as I love the house we have ended up in, renting in general just feels like throwing money away. Over the past 4 years of us renting I have calculated that we have paid £21,000+ to landlords. That number makes me feel sick. That could be a fifth of a house paid off by now but because deposits are so steep and there are no ways for us to save one while paying for a rented house, the cycle is ever going. I hope to find some way by next year to earn extra money, maybe a 2nd job worked around our life and all of that will be put away so by the time I'm 35 I can say I have bought a house.


See more of the world - There are so many fascinating places on my 'to visit' list, many of which I will never make it to. My fear of flying has only grown worse and now I refuse to fly ever again so by 25 or not it makes no difference. However, I could never have imagined the past 5 years would unfold as they did meaning very little spare money for a bar of chocolate let alone a trip to Chichen Itza!


Do more for charity - Although I have done more than others it still isn't the amount I'd hoped. A big event fell through this year and I was very disappointed in that but never got around to organizing anything in it's place. Something people don't seem to realize is that many events I have organized or taken part in in the past don't just take time and effort but money too. I swear if I had the money some of these celebs do I would still live a basic life and use a lot of it for charity purposes.


Be in better health - You'd think at 25 health wouldn't be an issue! I was doing so well sorting out my diet pre-Disneyland 2014 but have struggled to scale the wall of food demons over the past year. What I eat isn't my only issue of course as my breathing is a major factor along with my joints but I'd of liked to have been in peak fitness at this age, not feeling as if I'm falling apart haha.


Have more savings - Again. Money! The root of all evil and something that I wish I could go back and tell 18 year old me about. If I'd saved the wages I got back then instead of squandering them on unworthy people I'd probably have had a deposit for a house...



By 25 I have:

Started a family - NO! This isn't a pregnancy announcement hahaha. But I am extremely happy and lucky to have my little family in the form of a bearded xbox addict and best dog ever. I've known for a few years now that children weren't on the cards for me and of course have always pictured my life with a dog in it. He is another reason other aspects of life haven't turned out exactly to plan as for example if we didn't have him I'd be working full time and a house deposit would most likely have been achievable by now - I wouldn't change it for the world though.


Done charity work - I know I'm contradicting the above point but I am proud of the fundraising etc I have been able to do. This year I completed my 5th consecutive Race for Life and over the past 4 years I have skydived for Monkey World, organized a dog walk for Guide Dogs for the Blind, sponsored dogs from Dogs trust, put together hampers for animal shelters, sent out shoe boxes of goodies for Operation Christmas child and sponsored friends/donated where I could.


Been an adult for 4 years - By adult I mean have lived alone, paid bills, worked out how to do all of those adult things that they should teach you in school but don't :P I've always been pretty money savvy and mature but proving to myself and others that I can sort out all the crazy stuff I have had to deal with over the past few years is a nice adulty feeling.


Found myself -  How cliche does that sound?! At 25, I'm glad to say that I know who I am and am happy with myself. I have not drank alcohol for 4 years and I am proud to say that. My heart is split into 4 sections - Disney, Harry Potter, the natural world and my family. Bird watching and nature hunts are one of my favorite pastimes even if people think it's an 'old person' hobby. I dress for comfort and don't spend much money on clothes or make up. I'm a loner and prefer the company of animals. I'm me and if anyone doesn't like that I don't care any more.

Done my best.



This post has gotten so much longer than I ever expected...but through it I think I have made myself realize that I have done exactly that, my best. People my age or younger that own their house and get to travel do so because they work hard. That doesn't mean that I don't work hard too but just that all our lives are different and we all have different goals & priorities.
I hope that you got something out of this post and if you did read it all (truthfully! Because man that is a heck load of waffle to get through..) tell me in the comments where you aspire to be in the next 5 years.
Thank you very much for reading!! <3






24 comments:

  1. It's always interesting to be introspective and come to the realisation that we have done our best and it was all we could do. :) Things even in the last year didn't turn out exactly the way I had hoped in my own life but my main goal of being reunited with my husband in the UK has this past month FINALLY become a reality and that was through a lot of hard work on both our parts. We may not yet be in our own home (something I'd hoped for as well) but we have each other and can toil together. ❤️ Well done, Danielle, on all the things you HAVE done and keep pushing on for your heart's desires. xx

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    1. Aw I'm so glad to hear that you have been reunited! That must have been a fabulous moment after working so hard towards it :) I suppose a home is who you're with not where you are ;)
      Thanks so much <3

      xo

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  2. It's amazing how much charity work you have done as not many people our age is bothered to help those in need. Congrats on all you have achieved!
    My goals for the next 5 years are (money is a factor thou, as always): Buy a house and travel to New York or England for a holiday. My car repayments will be done next year April, so we will have some extra money to save up towards those goals.

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    1. Ah I don't feel I have done much at all but thank you :)
      Oooh!! That sound so awesome - I'll keep my fingers crossed that you get to go as soon as possible & I'll look forward to seeing photos from those trips :D

      xo

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  3. This post is fab, I had a mini meltdown at 25, I wondered where my life had gone & what the hell had I done with it. I think it was because I got married in the summer just before & I panicked that there wasn't much else for me to do with my life. I'm so much more content now I'm happy with where I am. I'm trying to embrace every second as I can. It sounds like you have your head screwed on and that you are extremely content with everything & that is great!
    Bee | QueenBeady.com

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    1. Ah thank you. I'm glad to hear that I wasn't alone in my panic stations. That was a huge thing to have accomplished though, getting married. I'd hope to have been too but Jake doesn't believe in marriage :(
      I'm glad to hear that though, you always seem like someone who knows who they are and what they are doing so for you to say that about me is pretty special <3

      xo

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  4. I love this post! II would have a lot of the same points as you. And yes, renting sucks!
    I'm gonna be 25 in Jan! Sarah x
    Whimsicalmumblings.blogspot.co.uk

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    1. Thanks so much! Doesn't it? haha Ooohh, joining club 25 - are you excited???

      xo

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  5. It's so easy to put pressure on ourselves about what we SHOULD have done or COULD have done when actually, you've nailed it, we're all just doing the best we can and that's all we can do. As long as there are some laughs along the way, it's all good. And you're already one up on me I think - I have no idea who I am!! But I'm working on it.
    My next milestone is 35 (gulp!) and I'd like to be fully qualified in my new career and nailing it. And I'd like to have been scuba diving at least one more time. But if I haven't done those things, as long as I'm happy and surrounded by doggles, I'll be a-ok.
    Loved this Danielle, you're bodacious.
    M x

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    1. For someone who doesn't know who they are you give off a super awesome vibe. But 35?! Surely that's like 10 years away for you still too?? Oohh scuba diving! You are brave! I hope (and am sure you will) succeed but yes, dogs are the main component to a happy life :P
      Thank you very much indeed Michelle - means lots and lots coming from you.

      xo

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  6. I love this post Danielle. You strike me as someone who just wants enough to get by and would use any extra to help others. It's refreshing to read your thoughts as the blogging world seems to be saturated by people that that are consumed by having the best look and latest product. There is nothing wrong with this but it doesn't necessarily equate to happiness.
    I was shocked at the figure you said you've put towards rent, i've never thought to add mine up, but it really does make you realise that buying is a good goal to have.
    As to where I aspire to be . . I can't answer that. I'm going through a funny period at the moment. I've put myself in a situation I thought I wanted and now I want to change but unsure what the change should be. Ask me in a few years and I might be able to answer! xx

    Amy at Amy & More

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    1. Thank you!!
      I just feel that life is about being happy, spreading happiness and doing what I can to help others somewhat happy makes me happy. Is the word happy sounding weird to you now? lol
      I know huh? And being in the North East rent is no where near as expensive as further south so it could have been waaayy higher if we lived else where. Scary!
      I've been there too and it's nothing to be bothered about, you have to try things to know if its for you or not. I hope it all works itself out for you - I'm sure it will. Everything happens for a reason.

      xo

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  7. Really interesting post. We are our own worst critics and always wish we'd done more but you're doing so well and are a lovely person. All that charity work is so admirable. I feel your pain with rent, house prices are so miserable but we'll get there! x
    Emily
    www.thebelljarblog.com

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    1. Thank you!!
      We are indeed. That's so sweet of you, I obviously don't do what I do or act how I act for recognition - but it's always nice to hear what you are doing is right.

      xo

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  8. You're an amazing person Danielle and you've already accomplished so much! I love all of the cool things you've done for charity and your outlook on helping people and animals is really admirable. I know it's difficult when you can see other people around you with this, that and the other and I do it myself, but I'm trying not to compare myself as much anymore - like you said, there's no reason why you should have to have completed something at a certain stage, and everyone's life unfolds differently. I love the photo of you, Jake and Baker all together too! - Tasha

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    1. Tasha - as always you're too much. I'm nothing special but I hope that what I do manage to do makes others want to too.
      It's nice to know other people my age who also feel the same. <3
      Thank you!! I was gutted that it was so over exposed (Jake's fault lol) but I used it anyways as we don't have many all together.

      xo

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  9. Happy Birthday my lovely. Sometimes what we want isn't what we need. I wish you the best year so far!

    Deimante x

    www.sunnydei.com

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  10. Everything is all about what we should and could of done these days. I'm guilty of it, I know that, I guilty of wishing I was doing something else or not enjoying the moment and getting bogged down in not being where I want to be. But then I have to step back and think about where I am and what I've done and it's not too bad. We can all do more, sure, but as long as we try our best that's all we can do.
    You've accomplished a lot in your life and to just be happy and to be yourself is more than many people have. I sometimes imagine that these people who are ticking all the boxes and doing all the right these are probably not really themselves because they are caught up in ticking boxes. Happiness is under-rated by lots of people. Of people spent a little more time doing a few more things they truly enjoy, I think the world would be a lot happier. No one enjoys the moment any more.

    Happy happy belated birthday to you (I can't remember if I wished you a happy birthday on the day... I'm a terrible friend).

    In five years time, I want to move to Asia and I want to see if it's everything I have imagined in my head. I want to leave science behind and never look at it again. I want to be the person I can be, and not the person people think I should be. That's not too much, right?

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    1. 'If people spent a little more time doing a few more things they truly enjoy, I think the world would be a lot happier. No one enjoys the moment any more. '
      Couldn't have said it any better.
      You really do always seem to take m thoughts and turn them into an eloquent piece of writing lol

      Thank you :)

      I have no doubts you'll achieve all of that and more!

      xo

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  11. "A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it, it just blooms."

    That is literally a quote I refer back to every time I sit and compare myself to people my age and what they have achieved that I haven't. As you said we're all different and as long as you do your best it's all good.

    You've done some amazing things Danielle, I'm especially in awe of all your charity work. I hope to do more in the next year to raise money for worthy causes and you've really inspired me.

    xx

    www.kirstytalks.co.uk

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    1. What a lovely quote! I love that!

      Aw thank you so much, that really means a lot. I'd love to hear of what fundraising ideas you come up with!

      xo

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  12. This is such a great post, you are still so young, I turn 37 this month, still feel like I am 18!

    I spent too much of my twenties concerned about how others perceived me rather than being myself, now in my thirties I find I don't care what others think at all.

    At least with us being so close to the continent you can travel by ferry or eurostar, you could go all the way to China if you wanted!! Flying isn't for everyone, it does make me nervous but we love DisneyWorld and Walt put it in Florida not Scotland!!

    Live your life for you!!

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    1. Ah thank you! The funny thing with bloggers is I never think of them as a certain age - I don't quite know how to explain what I mean haha.

      Oh gosh the Eurostar is my savior. I've flown on over 30 planes in my lifetime but it's just not gonna happen for me anymore :P

      xo

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