Monday, 14 November 2016

Things I Hate About Blogging


Here we are after two, seemingly, well enjoyed  'Things I Hate About...' posts and this one could go only two ways. It is a little harsh, very close to home and will probably offend many people seeing as we seem to live in a world where everyone takes everything personally and can't take a joke ;)
I'd make my usual disclaimer about the word 'hate' and that this should all be taken with a pinch of salt but we all know you aren't reading this anyway, so let's talk about the things I hate about blogging...


White Everything
Where is the colour?! The life, the brightness, the individuality. In 2008 blogs all looked different, with layouts we coded ourselves, reminiscent of the MySpace days. Now so many blogs are all white with black text and you can't tell who is who. I love to see the bright headers, pops of colour in the sidebars and even the odd different coloured background!
Not only that but the houses behind the blogs are all white too?! White carpets and furniture, white bedding and accessories. They must be either forever cleaning or tip toeing around their own house so as not to ruin anything.

Afternoon Tea
I feel like the only person who has never had/ has no interest in / doesn't understand the hype around afternoon tea. And I hate that. haha Oh and proccesso. I dunno what it is, I dunno how to pronounce it and I dunno where it has come from all of a sudden for everyone to always be talking about it.


Everyone is a Photographer
I went to school for photography. I've worked in studios, worked as a freelance and have sold my work. But then 15-year-old Betty knows better and is trying to tell me how I should be taking photos in a blog post. There have to be other trained photographers out there that get a chuckle at those types of posts? I'm not saying I'm amazing and know it all - far from - and the vast majority of photos I share here are just snaps and not worthy of the title photography but, seriously the fact that every other blogger calls themselves a 'photographer' is getting crazy.


Plagiarism
That's exactly what it is when you downright copy someone's blog post. Stealing the idea of series, with no credit that it is inspired by another blogger, using a photo (that you didn't take) as your own or being so bold as to copy and paste a full post only altering the odd word is copying and copying is not cool.


Word Trends
First it was penchant and 4 out of 5 blogs had that word in their about me. There's been 'on point' - gag. Now it's the aesthetic crowd throwing it around in all sorts of different ways, some of which don't even make sense. Calm down and just say you think Jean's top looks nice not that it is sooo your aesthetic! The word has been ruined for me.
[Not limited to blogging but other words that make me gag are: lit, fam, shook, slay, fleek, goals, etc etc etc]


Fake Kindness
When you know of a person in real life, from your town, city or have even just met them be it at a blogging event or known them from college or something and then you randomly see them online and they act completely differently. That's what I'm talking about. The girl who sniggers at how others are dressed or talks to their family like rubbish but online brands themselves an advocate for positivity, kindness and equality. Make up your mind and be one or the other - don't have two separate personalities on and offline.



I asked you all on twitter what things YOU hate about the blog world and here are some of the things you said!
- ''Arguments between bloggers and copying.''
- ''the competitiveness and the whole idea that you're not a good blogger if you don't have 'this many' followers''
- ''when some bloggers get massive they forget where they came from.''
- ''the bitchiness and subtweeting. Always the worst. And the jealousy of people''
- ''expectations! Because everyone's getting noticed by brands and such there is this feeling that you're expected to want to be the next Zoella or whatever. People expect you to want to be big & want to go full time but sometimes you just want to blog!''
- ''The drama certain bloggers bring, and the two facedness is so childish''

In no particular order, thanks to CharlotteAJShonaRosie, Emma , Alisha Valerie for their opinions above!

So yeah, that's some of what I hate about blogging! Tell me what annoys you about all things blog in the comments below and feel free to check out the previous post in this little series - Things I Hate About Disney &  Things I Hate About People !

18 comments:

  1. Haha! Pretty much all of the above, except I LOVE afternoon tea - but that is because I'm a piggy!
    Bee | QueenBeady.com

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    1. I think that seems the overall consensus with others too lol. I just don't understand it. Like is it just tea and sandwiches and cake? I can just sit at home eating cake but with a blanket and my dog which is so much better haha.

      xo

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  2. Oh how I agree with most of what you've listed!! Other things I hate about blogging are when bloggers- who aren't even "big"- won't take the time out to even acknowledge comments on their posts! It drives me crazy! Also when posts are clearly sponsored but the blogger pretends they've come up with the whole idea themselves! Urgh haha

    Renee | Life After Lux

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    1. Here here on that one Renee! SO many people have ignored my comments and just pick and chose whose comments they answer (usually the people they're friends with) after a while it's just you know what, why even bother to support you if you don't appreciate it?!
      I always make sure to answer every single comment because it always makes my day when someone has taken the time to visit my blog let alone comment.
      Yes! More than agree with that too!

      xo

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  3. Hi! Have to say I agree so much; I actually prefer my Instagram photos with the pink or wooden background.

    Also understand the comments from other bloggers to. Have to say I hate the fact that if you don't do certain things or follow certain trends, you're almost worthless..

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    1. Hiya lovely <3 I LOVE wooden everything. All of my furniture is dark wood, so pretty compared to white in my opinion haha.

      Right?! It's like you just get ignored. I don't do chats or go to meet ups and so I don't matter to certain groups of people.

      xo

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  4. Deep down I don't like blogging all that much. I like having a space to share my photos and my stories, but that's it. I couldn't care less for all the other aspects of blogging, the community, the brands and all the other bullpoo.

    In general, I sort of just hate the internet most of the time. I just can't be bothered with it. That's why these days I rarely look at social media, I just do what I want and leave.

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    1. 100% agree. I know people get annoyed when people say it but it really isn't the same as it used to be. :(

      xo

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  5. I'll confess to loving afternoon tea, although I haven't had afternoon tea since I was 16 and celebrating my GCSE results with my family. Prosecco passed me by (although we'll likely be drinking it at our wedding, because most packages (unless you upgrade to champagne, which we both hate so won't be doing) include prosecco nowadays). I think it's basically cheap wine/champagne? I never knew you went to school for photography? How awesome! I'm definitely not a photographer. I bought a 'fancy' camera which I'm now selling because I don't have the time or inclination to learn how to use it, and I don't want to be a photographer. I just want to take decent shots for my blog. But I would never presume to tell someone I was a photographer, or tell them how to take good photos - I haven't a clue. Please, someone, tell me?! Haha. The all white thing as well - I know, how does everyone have all white houses?! My house is grey, brown, green, blue, all kinds of colours depending on what room you're in. I couldn't be bothered with the upkeep of white! Agree with all these, but mostly I hate the drama in blogging. It seems every time I log into Twitter recently there's some new Twitter spat. It drives mad - I just can't be bothered with it! x www.aimeeraindropwrites.co.uk x

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    1. Don't worry, you are not alone! haha I just don't like tea...or scones...or eating in public so I just stick to eating cake on the sofa ;)
      I did yep. Worked in the field for about 8 years and now I just do the odd shoot fot friends. I did a few weddings but my stress/anxiety made me have to stop.

      Yes! My house is a lot of natural tones, but darker but the carpets are cream (we rent) and I hate it! I want a dark carpet or hardwood floors when we buy.

      Oh every time I see people starting stuff or see that there is some kind of drama going on I tend to stay offline. Like, I'm 26. Not 16 and at highschool, I had enough of all that rubbish while I was there and have no time to waste on it in a so called 'community'.

      xo

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  6. Preach it girl!
    I laughed about the photographer one. I see people that have no photography experience giving camera & photography posts like they are experts. Its really funny - goes into the plagiarism thing because they get their info right off Pintrest. Geez.

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    1. Yes! SO glad someone understood what I was saying with the photography. I have the qualifications but would still never do a post telling people how to take photos.
      Oh Pinterest...I think it can be more harm than good a lot of the time when it comes to stuff like that for sure.

      xo

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  7. Thank goodness for this post, I'm glad someone has said these things out loud! One thing that I can't understand is that so so many people using similar backgrounds (like tiles,marble and so on) for item posts. It looks lovely but I think if lots of people are doing it wouldn't it be more fun to just do your own thing

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    1. Thank you!! Yes! I've always thought it's nicer to stand out from the crowd than be a sheep :) But it's not for everyone.

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  8. I agree with so many of these things! In general I find the "blogging community" and it's trends and expectations more stressful than anything else. When I first started using Twitter to promote my blog and found the community of people who shared my hobby, I was excited to find like-minded people. I liked the Twitter chats, sharing blog posts with other bloggers, commenting, the whole deal. But as time went on I started to feel a lot of pressure to "grow" my blog, get more followers on Twitter, start using Instagram and Pinterest, etc. and blogging started to feel like a chore. That's part of the reason I've withdrawn a bit from my blog and lost a lot of motivation I had before. I still enjoy reading my favorite bloggers' posts and their Twitter feeds, but I'm trying to distance myself a bit because I was starting to compare myself way too much to other bloggers and feel inferior when I didn't do things the way they did or post five-plus times a week. I have so many ideas for blog posts, and I'm trying to find time and motivation to write again, but I need to do it now for me and not to fit into some community.

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    1. I'm glad to have had such a great response to this and see that I'm not alone! I complete agree with everything you have said and I personally stopped all chats etc a long time ago due to the 'you can have an opinion, as long as it's the same as mine' crowd!
      I really hope you do start to post more again. Many have said it but it is true that it's way better to have a small group of blogging friends that always support/read/comment etc than try to talk to or fit in with people you have nothing in common with.

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  9. Amen Danielle! Thank you for writing this. For me, blogging is a hobby which I love, and I always enjoy seeing people in the comments saying they enjoyed something I shared or wrote, so I never understand the competitive edge that has creeped into the blogging world over the past few years, and it's disheartening to see followers and statistics taking over what should be creative expression and sharing what we love. I really agree with what Kerri said too, social media really gets me down sometimes. It used to be a way to connect with people and keep up to date, but now it's turned into a way to 'network' and I feel like it can be very competitive sometimes, more on Twitter than Facebook, which is why I stick to just sharing things I like and some of the photos I've taken. The photography thing I can imagine is a real bug-bear for you too. I'm a total amateur so I always try never to refer to myself as a photographer, though I know my blog is more of a photo diary, but I can imagine it's frustrating, especially for people like you, who are trained in this! Also, I am so glad someone mentioned the white on white backgrounds. I know a lot of people are into minimalism now but it doesn't automatically mean clean whites everywhere, and I do feel like people's true individuality is getting swallowed up by what's trendy or considered chic. I've never been like that, and it's even creeping over onto Pinterest now too - I love colour and fun things and I'm a big kid at heart so maybe that's why I struggle to see that appeal of that look but it's nice to see individuality coming through more often in blogs and people's writing. Great points here, and sorry for the massive comment, I had a lot of thoughts! - Tasha

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    1. Thank YOU! I'm so glad to have gotten such a great response from everyone. There seems to be a large group of us who all feel the same. I wish we could have our own private social media site that we could all support each other on as and when we felt like it haha.

      Your photos are wonderful!! And the exact reason a person should be into photography. I just find it slightly annoying when someone who has no training, but takes photos of their make up and thinks they can tell others how they should be taking photos. :/

      ' people's true individuality is getting swallowed up by what's trendy or considered chic' - you hit the nail on the head Tasha. That's what it is. It's like a field full of white sheep and then there is just the odd black sheep (us). I have always been the odd one veering away from the herd and I like that.

      Never say sorry for a comment, I love it. Thank you so much!!

      xo

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